Let's stop comparing

Having a baby is a beautiful experience but I’m not going to beat around the bush, it is a hard experience too. I am a big believer that as mums, we have a duty to each other to be kind. Be patient. Be supportive. And be honest. 

When I first had Sammy I would compare myself and Sam to others. Why isn’t that baby crying as much as my baby. What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I breastfeed like that mum? What am I doing wrong? Why haven’t I lost as much baby weight as that mum? What am I doing wrong? Why isn’t my baby sleeping through the night like that baby? What am I doing wrong? 

Sometimes, our own self judgements and comparisons can take us down a path of pain. Sleep deprivation can cloud our thoughts. Negative thoughts can lead to more negative thoughts. These negative thoughts then turn onto those around us and make us think things like I wouldn’t use a dummy like that mum. I wouldn’t introduce formula like that mum. I wouldn’t sleep train my baby like that mum. 

Recognising these thoughts is the first step to breaking this bad habit. The next step is to surround yourself with like minded individuals who can help support you during the hard times. 

So, mama, pick a tribe that will lift you up and support you. But also remember you are part of that tribe and you have a role to play to support others. The way you did things isn’t the way another mama needs to do things. Lets try to lift each other up rather than put each other down. 

Comparison is the thief of joy. 


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